After years of being single—and only after a few years of being married, Martin Luther said, “Marriage is a far better school of character than any monastery.” (Can I get an “amen” from the married people?)
And if marriage isn’t challenging enough, try parenting. Before we were married, my wife and I had seven keys to raising kids. Now we have seven kids—and no keys.
Your Disciplemaking Learning Community (DLC) at Home
But make no mistake about it: Your first DLC is your home. Let’s call marriage, parenting, and grandparenting what they really are—disciplemaking. And while we’re keeping things real, let’s also admit that our homes are often the last place that feels like a DLC. God wants this to change.
The good news is that you need not be a perfect spouse, parent, or grandparent to make your home feel like a DLC. The moment you begin to try to live Deuteronomy 6:5-9, your home begins to look and feel like a DLC:
“Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commands that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, and when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”
For our family right now, trying to apply Deuteronomy 6:5-9 means reading the Scriptures together and praying with our high school kids before they go off to school.
- It means taking time around our dinner table to engage a short passage of Scripture and to pray together (less than 10 minutes usually).
- It means confessing and repenting of our sins against each other when one of us loses our temper or is less than loving.
- It means having enough humility to laugh at our own idiosyncrasies—and not mind if others laugh along with us.
- It means driving to church together and trying to not being out of fellowship with God and each other by the time we arrive.
- It means learning to sincerely say, “I love you,” “Will you forgive me?” and “I forgive you.”
- It means sitting on the deck at night enjoying a sunset and together as a family literally applauding God for his handiwork.
- It means inviting our teenagers to consider God and his Word when they ask us to go see a movie that we’re not quite sure about.
What does a Disciplemaking Learning Community mean for YOUR family?
Ok we know that kids say the “darnedest things” as the saying goes… but toss in a disciplemaking journey (we call ours Bible Breakfast and it happens at Old Macdonalds three mornings a week) and the sayings change… Here are a few moments with five year old Bryce over the course of the past week…
Hey Papa, listen to the rap song I wrote…
Mouth noises start then… the singing begins…
Everything is awesome… Everything is good… yet it’s all falling apart at the seams. But it’s cool to be part of a team.
Ok… do you want to break that down or should I? Can you identify a mix of Bible truths that would flavor his insights.
Then while our oldest puppy (yorkie) Snickers was dying of a stroke… Bryce walked the family room and prayed: God, Snickers is really, weally weally sick. Can you heal him like you have healed others? He needs to be able to walk again so he can go outside and poop. Ok God he weally needs your help. weally. In Jesus Name Amen
Then two days after Snickers went to heaven… DEAR JESUS, you brought Lazarus and some guys daughter in the Bible back from the dead. You rose again. Can you help Snickers and bring him back from the dead? If you want that’d be great. In not can you Bring us a new Snickers by Christmas. In Jesus Name. AMEN.
So what are you praying today? How does who God is and what he has done fuel how you’re willing to pray? The more we are in God’s Word together with Bryce, the more we can pray!
Thanks for your eyes, BRYCE!